What is it about a man or a woman that makes one attractive to the other? Face? Smile? Legs? Money? Job? Clothes? Car?
Toss “chemistry” in the list. The “attraction” that one sex feels for the other has been the study by the sexes since the sexes began. What makes a person desirable to one, but not necessarily to someone else?
Choice making is an imprecise science, though eHarmony would have us believe it’s merely a matter of revealing our inner selves and matching said inner self with the inner selves of someone else.
In general, men tend to be visual and therefore value good looks. What makes up those good looks? Face, smile, hair, eyes, legs, breasts, hips, hands. This isn’t a scientific list, mind you. I’m making it up as I go.
I’m right, though.
In general, women tend to value brains, money, and success; stereotypes that have been around since long before there was stereo, but long enough to make the trend obvious.
Sandwiched between the desirable perspectives of male and female are other features; kindness, tenderness, race, height, education, and the like.
Back to the inherent gene for the prejudice built in to all of us.
Science has determined that most women seek men of the same race, and ditto for men. In fact, most tend to “find” partners of a similar education and socio-economic background, with a large percentage of professionals hooking up with other professionals.
How, then, does one define the “chemistry” that exists between man and woman? Or, how do we explain the age-old saying, “opposites attract?” It’s tough to explain or justify because it isn’t always true.
Modern society almost always dictates that looks are considered first for a man when seeking a woman. Increasingly, the same appears to be the case for women seeking men, though to a lesser degree.
Interracially, substantive differences appear between men and women. White men do not discriminate against Asian women, though Asian women discriminate against black and Hispanic men, hence the white man and Asian woman is the most common interracial match up.
Interestingly, in the US, and perhaps elsewhere, Southern men and women prefer same race match ups, while Northern men and women were more likely to mix. Maybe it’s the weather.
In the end, statistics may tell what happens to bring men and women together, but not necessarily why it happens.