I have trouble remembering names. Like strings of numbers, names just don’t stick until they have been used a few times. Actually, that’s wrong. I have trouble remembering names of people I have known for years. Even relatives and workmates.
What can you do to ease the embarrassment of not remembering names and still deal with people appropriately?
I call them ‘young lady.’ For men, it’s ‘young man.’ I can tell which belongs to which.
There is a distinct advantage to using the term young lady instead of a name. I’m old already so I can get away with it. For awhile.
First, older women love it. Someone is referring to them as young. Second, little kids love it. Someone is referring to them as a lady (or a man); ipso facto, more grown up. Third, almost any woman of any age loves being referred to as young.
Well, they love it until they realize that you don’t really know their name and young lady is just a cheap substitute to compensate for a poor memory.
Things have changed in the era of email and text messaging. That requires us to remember something else beyond the name. An email address and a phone number. Still, I know who I’m writing to, or texting, or even calling on the phone, but the message always starts much the same way.
‘Hello, young lady.’ Or, a call ends the same way; ‘Thank you, young lady.’
Does it work?
It must be acceptable to everyone concerned because nobody has complained and I still cannot remember names.