What would you think of a daughter who spreads malicious lies about her father? A daughter who claims to be a Christian but slanders her father publicly? A daughter who litters Facebook with libelous notions that makes him look like a terrible father? Of course, her slander and libel make her look like a wonderful victim.
I’m asking for a friend.
This is a family I know well. I saw their children grow up. Her father and his second wife— not the mother of his daughter— was well respected in the community, a hard worker who sacrificed for his family and worked diligently to do what was right.
The daughter and step-mother clashed frequently in their early years together and those encounters often put the father in a difficult situation when trying to keep peace. Yet, the daughter clearly was a good big sister to her younger siblings, shepherding them appropriately when her parents were gone.
From many accounts, and a number of public episodes, the daughter became a rebellious teenager who would sneak out with friends late at night and gained a measure of notoriety for her two-faced behavior. I would not consider that an unusual situation in a family with a step parent.
I knew the father’s first wife; a beautiful woman who, at times, was both flirtatious and self-centered. He often mentioned that she was the starter wife as he had no idea how to manage a relationship with someone more interested in night life than parenting.
It was not a surprise that he became the single father and the mother ventured off to glitter and fame and her own notoriety. He and his daughter seemed to have a good relationship for years before the second wife came along.
When her teenage years ended she left home, moved in with yet another new boyfriend, had a number of affairs over a few years, eventually married and divorced quickly. She seldom came in contact with her father and step-mother. As time progressed she remarried and had two children.
I saw them at a family reunion nearly a decade ago and she was all smiles and friendly with everyone, including her father and step-mother. They seemingly parted on good terms but something happened. Her father does not know what. Her public disparagement began soon afterwards with a barrage of slander and libel that continues unabated.
Her grandparents are friends, too, and on a few occasions they told me that they pointed out to her some of the inconsistencies in her disparaging stories. Her response was to ignore them with a few years of silence.
As one who claims to be a Christian woman I wonder how she views the Bible’s admonition against slander (which works equally well with libel; hence the Facebook connection). How does she view the Bible’s requirement to honor parents? What about the scriptural guidelines to seek peace?
I’m asking for a friend.